How is life after the baby? FABULOUS!

(if you scrap the zombie-sleepless night, cranky-post partum depression syndromes, a LOT of tears, and many other dramas of a new mom), but still, who wants the true answer to a cliche question?

I could go on and on about my ugly truths of the first days after Zhas was born, but I am saving that story for another post. This one is a post about how to keep my marriage sane after such a big change: Zhaf.

My husband and I are employees, which means we don’t have the luxury of being at home all day. Leaving our home around 6 a.m. every weekday, and if we are lucky, we could be at home again around 6 p.m. – but mostly, we arrive home around 7/8 p.m. Zhaf is our main focus whenever we are at home: playing, biting, laughing, and of course, cuddling. To say the truth, our romantic moments have become very rare.

So, how can we make it through our critical time as husband and wife? Talk. Talking is our main connection right now. Luckily, our offices are near each other, which enables us to travel together every morning and sometimes also in the afternoon. We would savor the precious journey and make it our moment to kindle the flame. We would share what’s happening in our daily life while in the office, or simply share any story that crosses our mind. I love these moments. It is our way to keep the bond.

Other than talking, thanks to our new gigantic internet package from a certain postpaid provider, we have a new routine: watching romantic movies or funny TV shows. Sometimes, we would take silly snaps in the middle of Jakarta’s infamous traffic jam. Openness, laughs, and silliness are our charms.

That is our way, what is yours?