Ramadhan Mubarak

Assalamu’alaikum.. May peace be upon you. yes! PEACE. The one word that we’re using more often these days, in Indonesia and through out the rest of the world. Reading, hearing, and watching the news become more traumatizing and depressing. Terrorism, wars, oppressions, anarchist, and criminal acts are the main topic of almost all of the news’ outlets. I couldn’t help it anymore – wondering why it is so easy to spread hatred and negativity, without thinking about other’s feeling. One group’s claim to be the victim, while their acts scream villain. One nation is banning people solely based on their origin country or even their religion. One group massacred other group just because they were different. A killing spree in random places by a person, just to be accepted in one criminal group. ah.. I could going all day listing all the terror happening in our reality now, but what’s the purpose?

Here we are, living in a very divided world, yet hope is still here. We could see that despite – or because of  – all this cruelty, people begin to extend their help into a larger scale. Groups from different background are embracing each other more than they ever before. The phrase “faith in humanity restored” is getting its stage. People racing to show the warm of their heart to each other, just to make sure that we really feel that this life is worth living.

This is what Ramadhan is truly about : to bring the best of people. As a moslem, I believe this is what Rasulullah SAW wants to see : kindness, in every way of our life. I am no expert in explaining about what is Ramadhan, but I found a very helpful article if you want to understand about it more, it is this article from Vox. I like the closing line : “Because terrorists are assholes.” Don’t ever let terrorists act define what Islam is. This Ramadhan is our opportunity to unite moslems around the world to show the true face of Islam.

Terrorists. They have no religion, even if many will automatically link it to Islam – they are not muslims. Islam is a religion about peace and thaught us how to live peacefully among others. Terrorism rooted deeply within the society itself, not within Islam. It is an act of defiance, to scare people, to threaten another group for its own political gain. There are many kinds of terrorism, which cause expert to hardly agree on one definition. The fail to exactly define what is terrorism clearly show the complexity of its term, moreover its actions and its aim. One thing for sure, terrorist wants us to stop living. That is not Islamic teaching.

:sigh: I got carried away… I wanted to write about Ramadhan, but I was mumbling about these issues instead. My bad.. I am sorry, I guess I have been diving this issue for too long and I need to get it off my chest – to vent out. I need to write more about it later, in a better compose post.

Back to Ramadhan. It is a month of joy. Let’s bring the best of us and enjoying this closeness. We are closer to Allah, our family, our loved ones, and our fellow creatures of the world. Let’s observe Ramadhan by being a better human being.

Ramadhan Mubarak, Every one!

Salam,

The DarkJasmine

a little about peace building

Dalam Michelle (2003) dan Rene (2008) dikatakan bahwa ada dua cara yang berbeda untuk memahami peacebuilding. Pertama adalah berdasar pada dokumen “agenda untuk perdamaian” milik PBB yang mengatakan bahwa peacebuilding mencakup aktivitas yang yang berasosiasi dengan pembangunan kapasitas, rekonsiliasi, dan transformasi masyarakat, dimana peacebuilding merupakan proses jangka panjang setelah konflik mereda, atau dengan kata lain, peacebuilding merupakan fase dari proses perdamaian yang dilakukan setelah peacemaking dan peacekeeping. Pendapat yang kedua merupakan pemahaman peacebuilding menurut banyak lembaga swadaya masyarakat, peacebuilding tidak hanya merujuk pada usaha-usaha transformatif jangka panjang, tetapi peacemaking dan peacekeeping.

Definisi yang lebih operasional mengenai peacebuilding dikemukakan oleh Christie, Daniel dkk (dalam Faturrochman, 2007) di artikelnya yang berjudul “Introduction to Peace Psychology”. Peacebuilding menurut Christie dkk didesain untuk mengurangi kekerasan atau kekacauan struktural (structural violence). Definisi ini juga digunakan untuk membedakan peacebuilding dari peacemaking, dimana peacemaking dikatakan sebagai proses yang diterapkan untuk mengurangi kekerasan dan kekacauan langsung (direct violence), walaupun pada dasarnya, hubungan kedua kekacauan bersifat melingkar sehingga untuk mengetahui akar dari permasalahan-permasalahan yang muncul tersebut memerlukan integrasi proses peacebuilding dan peacemaking.

Pada dasarnya, studi mengenai peacebuilding  ini merupakan bagian dari peace psychology yang oleh MacNair (2003) diartikan secagai studi mengenai proses mental yang membawa kepada kekacauan, mencegah kekacauan, dan memfasilitasi anti kekacauan sebagaimana mempromosikan keadilan, saling menghargai, dan saling menghormati untuk semua, yang bertujuan untuk mengurangi terjadinya kekerasan dan kekacauan dan membantu memperbaiki efek psikologisnya. Sedangkan menurut Christie dkk (dalam Fatirrochman, 2007) Psikologi perdamaian berusaha untuk membangun teori dan praktik yang bertujuan untuk mencegah dan mitigasi kekacauan baik langsung maupun struktural . psikologi perdamaian lebih lanjut dikatakan disana mempromosikan manajemen tanpa kekerasan dari konflik dan diikuti dengan keadilan social, yang dibaginya menjadi peacemaking dan peacebuilding.

Peacebuilding lebih lanjut dikatakan dalam artikel tersebut adalah dilakukan dimana saja dan tidak terbatas pada suang dan waktu tertentu, serta mempunyai beberapa dimensi, seperti budaya, politik dan ekonomi. Bahkan menurut Handwarker (2000), perdamaian dimulai dari dalam diri manusia yang mempunyai kebutuhan dasar dan tingkah laku yang dimotivasi untuk mempertahankan diri serta yang berhubungan dengan pemenuhan. Dari hal tersebut muncul interpersonal peacebuilding (membangun perdamaian antar manusia) yang dianalogikan seperti membangun kembali jembatan-jembatan atau membuat hubungan antara individu dengan individu adau sekelompok individu. Sangat kecil kemungkinan untuk membangun perdamaian pada konflik yang terjadi tanpa memasuki tingkat tertentu dari kesepahaman yang baik.

Selain interpersonal, factor personal juga sangat berpengaruh, seperti yang dikatakan Handwarker sebelumnya bahwa perdamaian berawal dari dalam. Habib Chirzin dalam presentasinya yang berjudul “The Rights to Peace and Sustainable Development for Our Common Future : Strengthening Peace Generation” yang disampaikan di International Youth Forum (2008) mengatakan bahwa tidak ada perdamaian tanpa terpenuhinya hak asasi manusia, yang menjadikan terpenuhinya hak asasi manusia merupakan hal yang tidak dapat ditoleransi dalam pencapaian kondisi yang damai. Perdamaian dikatakannya dapat dinilai dengan referensi pemenuhan hak asasi manusia tersebut. Salah satu penyebab tidak terpenuhinya hak asasi manusia itu adalah kekerasan struktural (Sstructural violence).

How to make a peaceful world for children,,

this is the result of one group in open space session of IYF 2008 (Bandung, 25 June 2008), enjoy it,,

Title            : Making a Peaceful World for Children to Enjoy Their Childhood Time

Key Points            :

   Children need to explore their world for building their character and to learn how to socialize with others.

   Nowadays, children have limited spaces and time for playing and enjoy their childhood time because of the city development, educational system or even the war.

   Parents are so busy to work so sometimes they only provide the children with material things, not with love or care. Although, the togetherness between the parents and the children is not about the quantity but it’s all about the quality.

   Children are forced to learn something that not equal with their cognitive term yet, so it can result in the school refusal.

   Kindergartens and playgroups have positive and negative sides. The positive side is that those both can arise the social awareness of the children, but the negative one is those both taken children’s time for being together with their family.

Conclusions/Recommendations/actions            :

1.     It’s a teacher responsibility for making the way for children to learn something attractively, so the term studying is not become a boring session, but become the interesting one. For example, setting the study situation in “back to nature” concept.

2.     Make a lesson or time that provide the spaces for children to share their feeling and facilitate children to socialize

Let the parents know that the children need to socialize and the children also have need of affection from them, from their own parents. Let the parents recognize that children’s needs are not only the material things.